With the influx of the internet and the ushering of the information age, a lot of problems can be solved when people have the right information about it. Towards this end, Fetlife was started as a social networking website that exclusively catered to people around the world that had a bent towards
The description banner on its homepage says, “Like Facebook, but run by Kinkster like you and me.”
Fetlife has a whopping 8 million members around the world and still counting. In a bid to make everyone comfortable, Fetlife is trying every day to include as many languages as possible so that people who speak a different language than English do not feel left out. It is doing a fabulous job, no two things about it.
In the present, the languages that Fetlife supports are
Changing to a preferred language is easy peasy on Fetlife. Simply go to https://fetlife.com/languages or go to the menu options on the right-hand top corner of the screen and follow instructions.
FetLife is owned by a Montreal based software engineer called John Kopanas, who has a Fetlife handle by the name of John Baku. The story goes that way back in 2007; Baku was on the brink of frustration when he was unable to find partners who had similar sexual interests like his. That was the year 2007, and he created a website called ‘FriendsWithFetishes.’ The website was very well received, and he was actively working on the second edition of his website when it occurred to him that he could launch as a social networking website and name it Fetlife.
Presently, Fetlife’s headquarters is in Vancouver in British Columbia, Canada.
The big day was the 3rd of January in 2008 when the founder and creator Kopanas launched Fetlife on the internet.
Fetlife has 7.5 million members across the countries of the globe, from the Americas to Europe to Asia to Oceania.
A person has to be at least 18 years of age to be on Fetlife.
Fetlife can be used on the desktop and on any other tethered mobile device that has excellent connectivity.
There are 7.3 million users from around the world on Fetlife today. Out of it, a mind-blowing 4,500,000 come from the USA alone.
If simplicity and straightforward navigability are what members are looking for, then Fetlife is perhaps the best bet. The site has FAQs to guide newer members or members who are not extremely active on it. Very few sites have so much ready guidance available to its members. It gives the members an appearance that everything is thought over and sought out. Members can post their thoughts and post media files, but huge video files cannot be uploaded.
The background color is black and grey, and most members say that it reflects a certain amount of melancholia that the community breeds. Texts here and there are in crimson, and the feeling of mystery is palpable.
Site navigation is way too easy. All the buttons on the menu are self-explanatory and not hard for even the technologically challenged. What you see is definitely what you get on Fetlife.
Almost all internet browsers support Fetlife. Members are advised to go for Chrome or Safari because there are some added safety features there, but Internet Explorer and Firefox also work well.
You can upload pictures and videos on Fetlife from your device’s gallery. There is live cam a la Facebook.
Fetlife is most often compared to Facebook because of its social networking model. But Fetlife differs in one unique feature, and that is of fetishes. When it comes to sexual fantasies, not everyone is the same. Different people have different fetishes—FetLife lists about 60 of them. If the member user is sure about his obsession for something, he can choose the craze by simply clicking on that option on the list, and the website will be redirected to those groups and members that have similar fetish as them. Then again, there is also a list of all the related fetishes; this feature stands out and has withstood the vagaries of time. This is the real soul of the website.
Fetlife social networking site works much the same way as Facebook – the social networking site that has helped many people reunite over decades now. Members on Fetlife can
Fetlife has personal chat windows that members can use to chat one on one. All that a member has to do is to go to the profile of the user he or she likes and click the message tab to take you to her chat window directly.
Sending messages on Fetlife is 100 percent free of charge. All that needs to be done is to type the text on the message box on the profile of the person you want to chat with. The message box may remind you of your email.
Messaging someone on Fetlife is easy, peasy! Directly go to the profile of the person that you are interested in chatting with. Once on the profile, click on the message tab and type your text. Press the enter key to send the message. Once the person receives your message, she may choose to reply to you on that very thread. You will have a notification from Fetlife about the reply, if any, from her.
There can be a lot of reasons why you cannot access Fetlife:
Fetlife will ban its members for a limited period in case they do not heed the website
Say if the members are still in an adventurous mood and violated the ban, the website will extend it for a similar period and even end up permanently banning them on the site.
Your Fetlife account will reactivate automatically after the stipulated time of the ban is over. There is nothing you can do other than wait for it to get over.
Fetlife allows members to delete their profiles. The easiest way, of course, is to go to http://fetlife.com/deactivate and click on deactivate or delete the account according to your call.
There is another way to delete the account by going to the hamburger menu on the top corner of the navigation bar. Click on “Update Setting” in the drop-down folder. There will be a ‘Deactivate/Delete Account button.’ You may select the Delete button and confirm your password.
The deleted account will go into a deletion queue and stay there for 7 days. If the member has a change of mind within that time, he may log in to the Fetlife website, and the account will become active again.
The option will temporarily take your profile off from showing up on people’s searches. You can go back to the Settings and change it to show your profile again at any point in time.
Because Fetlife operates like a social networking site, you have no dashboard like a profile page where the website will throw up matches based on your chosen age/sex/location filters.
Fetlife works like Facebook but with a little difference. You have to choose your interests and message them one on one. If they reply, you have your match.
When someone that you have messaged replies back or sends you a message first in the loop, you will get a notification indication in the navigation bar of your browser. You can also find the notification on your own notifications page.
Fetlife will notify you
Unlike most dating sites, there is no feature on feline’s profile to see the profiles of members that you liked. Since all the communication is done via personal chatting, that is the safest bet for you to check.
The social networking site works more on the lines of how Facebook works. There is a feature where you can disable your profile from being seen by other profiles.
Members can change username by clicking on http://fetlife.com/setting/account/nickname, and can be done once every 28 days only.
Check to see if your phone’s device supports the application. If you still have issues, please email them at firstname.lastname@example.org.
The website does not have a beaten age, sex, and location filters. However, there are searches for various kinks and fetishes.
Signing up with Fetlife is strict because all you need to provide the website is your email address and some personal information; that’s it! Signing up is completely free. Once the account is created, it will have to be verified with the registered mobile number. The account does not have to be linked to any social media handles to be registered.
The personal information asked is
The mobile number is predominantly used for verifying the account, whereas the email is used to retrieve your account in case you forget your username and password.
You will be sent a verification link on the email that you provide Fetlife. Click on that link, and you will be able to access the site.
There is no way that you can sign up for Fetlife through any other social media handle.
Log on to www.fetlife.com and sign up as a new user. You will need to provide a valid email or a phone number for verification.
You have to be a registered user to use the site’s features.
Fetlife Profile page is designed in such a way that it provides a very detailed description of the person whose profile the member is browsing. However, the website has not made it compulsory to divulge all the information. The site and its management give considerable leeway to the members in this regard. The member can choose to write how much ever they want to, and there are no tabs such as word limit or character limit.
Much like the Facebook app, pics and videos can be posted on either own wall or the walls of the others. The profile page acts as a sort of dashboard diligently displaying all the activities of the members. Friends or non-friends can leave behind messages on the person’s wall. There are two lists on the profile page; one that enlists all your friends and the other that will show the number of people that follow you.
There are all six parts on the Info page that a member is expected to fill. Let us take you one by on it
Fetlife may be downloaded on Android phones from FetLife.vip because it is not readily available on Play stores. It can be accessed through various other browsers. Recent surveys show that more than 85 percent of members use their mobile to access the app instead of downloading it directly into their phone devices.
Free Services include sending and receiving all messages, public viewing of all pictures and videos, joining groups. There is no premium membership on the website, but a few privileges are bestowed on the members that support the site monetarily. They are
Support for a minimum of 6 months is $30, and for a year is $60. For 2 years, you need to pay a slab value of $120. A payment of $240 will mean that you support the website for life! Fetlife is priced reasonably. Payment can be made via
All the features on Fetlife are entirely free, including sending and receiving direct messages.
Almost all of the features that are on the Fetlife website are free for its members. However, it is also important to technically support the running of a website this huge, and that is why Fetlife accepts donations from its members who are gratuitously returned some additional privileges for their monetary support. The billing is not done month-wise but usually done in bulk.
It will show up on a notification from the website if someone sends you love or a message. The message will lie in your chat box that is akin to the Messenger app on Facebook.
Fetlife is a free social networking site, and all its features are free for every member of it.
There is no premium membership on Fetlife. Almost all the features are free for everyone to use.
You can choose between deactivating your account temporarily and deleting it permanently.
Not at all; membership has to be manually renewed.
There is no facility to get back a refund for the unused time on the website.
Members have to renew their support each time manually.
The site offers a 7-day return policy, but it is applicable only if you support through
The entry on the credit card bill will say ‘BitLove Inc.’
You can gift support to other members on the website by going to the Message option and clicking on Gift Support.
You can support Fetlife for a minimum of 6 months only.
Fetlife is entirely safe and secure. Personal chats are two ways encrypted, and payment modes are secure as well. Messages that members delete also get permanently deleted from the website’s servers.
Yes, all Fetlife forums are moderated.
You can set your messages to ‘friends only’ mode.
Go to their profile and click on the “Message Kinkster” button on the top right-hand corner. Click on the Add to My Friends. You will see a drop-down folder with two links on it; one is Block User, and the other is Report User. Click on the appropriate link and confirm.
Fetlife starts with giving warnings and then follows it up with a ban on the account if the member does not heed their warnings.
Do not post any information that you are uncomfortable about safety and privacy. If it is your location, you may simply state the country instead of narrowing it down to the city or the state.
Fetlife chats are two-way encrypted. There is no scope for any eavesdropping.
There is a possibility that you can be tracked using the phone number and the email that you give. The IP address of the computer that you use is also a giveaway.
The police can trace you through the device that you have used the website app on. The IP address of the computer and the IMEI number of your mobile devices can help trace you.
In case of privacy issues, queries can be mailed to email@example.com. They have a proactive team that addresses within 24 to 48 hours.
Any information that is submitted on the website can be edited or deleted at will.
Fetlife does a good job of regulating fake profiles. However, if any slip their attention and members find disturbing, they can ask the website to check.
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Fetlife is not a dating site; it works more like a networking site. Not to take away anything from it, many BDSM, kink, and fetish couples have met on the website and taken their relationship forward by meeting outside the site.
Fetlife has no match option, and therefore members cannot be unmatched as well.
Fetlife is a social networking site. Members can message each other personally and may decide to meet up on their own, but it cannot be called a hookup app by any stretch of the imagination.
The website offers one of the most effective ways for members to open up and accept their sexuality and sexual fantasies. When members realize that they are more like him, they feel comfortable embracing their desires and accepting others.